It’s quite appropriate that the first post to go up on the Little by Little website is about family life and consultation. After all, this is what we are aiming to achieve here; to create an online family of individuals who help each other transform the world, little by little, day by day, through consultation.
It comes as a surprise to many that these efforts start not in the “hallways of power”, but rather, in our homes. By engaging our parents, siblings, spouses, and children in transforming, for the better, the way families function, we understand how transformation is supported by a complex system of conversations and consultations that feed into systematic adjustments in the way we do things.
It’s Not “Just” Talking
Conversations and consultations may seem like “just” talking, but they are far more than that. First and foremost, they require the ability to translate into words our thoughts, feelings, and emotions. Just think about it; how often have you found yourself at a loss when describing something?
But within the safe haven of our homes—and other safe spaces where our chosen families live, such as this website—we can fumble around, trying to figure out how to express ourselves. And we also take the time to learn how to listen.
Someone once told me that just because we are both seeing a giraffe, it doesn’t mean that we are seeing the same thing. One person could see only the neck, while another person would see only a hoof. When it comes to concepts, learning how to put the neck together with the hoof and drawing the complete picture of a giraffe is a precious skill that helps build true, broader understanding of the truth.
The Courage to Consult
It can be hard, admitting to someone at school, at work, or even amongst people we consider as friends but who aren’t really true friends, that we don’t see what they see. It’s a lot easier to just nod along and pretend that we see the same neck that everyone else is seeing, even if we only see the hoof. It takes courage to admit having a different view. And it takes courage to try to understand a different view.
It is within the safe space of our families, given and chosen, that we learn, little by little, to consult and draw the lines between our different views. And the more we practice this, the more confident we feel in our skills, and the more we can bring them into the other spaces in our lives—our school, our sports teams, our workplaces, etc. And as an increasing number of people learn to draw the parallels between different viewpoints, we will see the truth emerge: that we really are just one big human family.